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Shepherd's Gate Church
July 17, 2024

Are you looking to strengthen your marriage or build a solid foundation for your future together? A healthy, fulfilling relationship doesn’t happen by chance – it requires dedication and effort from both partners. Here are five key strategies to help you create a strong, lasting marriage: 

1. Communicate openly and honestly

Effective communication is the cornerstone of any successful relationship. Create an environment where both you and your partner feel safe expressing thoughts, feelings, and concerns without fear of judgment. Practice active listening, striving to understand each other’s perspectives. Regular, open dialogue helps prevent misunderstandings, resolves conflicts, and deepens your emotional connection. Ephesians 4:25 talks about how you should always be truthful in your marriage. 

2. Prioritize quality time together

In our fast-paced world, it’s easy to neglect spending meaningful time with your spouse. Make a conscious effort to create shared experiences that strengthen your bond. This could be a weekly date night, pursuing a shared hobby, or simply enjoying quiet moments together. Quality time fosters intimacy, creates shared memories, and helps you stay connected amidst life’s challenges. Read Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 and see how two are better than one! 

3. Practice forgiveness and grace

Every relationship faces challenges and disagreements. When conflicts arise, be quick to forgive and work towards reconciliation. Holding grudges only breeds resentment, while forgiveness promotes healing and growth. Remember that everyone makes mistakes – extending grace to your partner (and yourself) creates a more compassionate, understanding relationship. Colossians 3:13 gives guidance on forgiveness. 

4. Support each other’s goals and growth

A strong marriage is made up of two individuals who encourage each other’s personal development. Be your partner’s biggest cheerleader, offering support during both successes and setbacks. Encourage pursuit of personal interests and aspirations. This mutual support not only strengthens your individual identities but also enhances your bond as a couple. 1 Thessalonians 5:11 talks about building one another up. 

5. Nurture intimacy – both physical and emotional

Intimacy is about more than just physical closeness; it encompasses emotional connection as well. Foster closeness through affection, deep conversations, and maintaining a satisfying physical relationship. Make time for meaningful discussions about your hopes, fears, and dreams. This deep level of sharing and vulnerability strengthens your emotional bond and keeps your connection strong. Read Song of Solomon 4:9-10 and see how you should adore your partner. 

As you work on implementing these strategies, you might find yourself wondering about the role of faith in building a strong marriage. We believe that marriage is a gift from God, designed to bring joy, companionship, and mutual support. Our faith teaches that love, forgiveness, and selflessness – principles that benefit any marriage – are rooted in God’s love for us.  

Whether you’re exploring faith or simply looking for time-tested wisdom to strengthen your marriage, these principles can guide you towards a more fulfilling partnership. Remember, a healthy marriage requires ongoing effort and commitment from both partners. By consistently applying these principles, you can nurture a relationship that grows stronger with each passing day.